The Natural Chode

I used to be a good boy. I used to compromise when I knew I shouldn’t. I used to spend my time living up to others’ notions of what I should do, and who I should be. Now, I don’t.

What did I do? It was pretty simple, but it took a lot of work: I stopped giving a fcuk what other people thought of me. I realized that not only is it beyond my control, but its none of my business.

And the word of the day is….SOCIAL PRESSURE.

What is social pressure?

Social pressure is a fear of being judged. It is that feeling of resistance and anxiety you get when in a situation where people might not like what you are doing. When you are faced with possible or likely negative social repercussions for your actions.

Success with women context: you see a hottie in front of you while waiting in line at the grocery store. There are 2 people behind you and 1 in front of her. Can you picture it? You feel the urge to talk to her, that core masculinity that surfaces when in the presence of such beauty, that deeply instinctive inclination which pushes you to take the first step towards being with her and introducing yourself. You stop. You switch your focus to reduce the pressure, you notice the people around you, you think about how bad it would be if you fucked it up and she responded negatively, and everyone saw, and then you justify not taking action, you couldn’t leave because you have your shopping cart filled.

This is social pressure, and a tolerance to it is a MAJOR factor is becoming majorly successful with women. For those who value acting through their own intentions, the immensely important implications within and beyond the success with women context are quite obvious.

What I did was progressively desensitize myself through SOCIAL EXPERIMENTATION until I built up an immunity. This is the “how”.

I compiled the following list recently, and as is congruent with my 2 point advice-giving philosophy (1, never advise anything I haven’t tested myself, and 2, never recommend anything that hasn’t brought me actual results), I have tested all of them and experienced REAL improvements in my game…
1. The swine flu mask. Go to a public place like a shopping center and put on a swine flu mask. Browse the shops, run errands, or do whatever you need to do. Whenever someone looks at you weirdly respond by saying “swine flu” and coughing loudly. Commit to doing this for 30 minutes to an hour. If you start to get dizzy, move the mask down to your neck, but do not remove it.

2. Ignore. Next time someone calls your name, don’t answer. It is preferable if it is with someone you know personally as their expectation of you have already been established. Commit that you will not respond no matter how many times they say your name.

3. Stunna Shades At Night. Purchase a pair of stunna shades: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=stunna+shades The next time you go out at night to socialize, wear them and do not remove them for the entirely of the evening. If  you are asked why you are wearing sunglasses at night, you can respond by singing the lyrics to Bay Area classic…

Or, the Corey Heart original if you prefer…

4. Sing and mumble. Pick 5 of your favorite songs, put them on your ipod. Go somewhere busy and press play. Sing the words to each song LOUDLY until all 5 have played in their entirely. If you don’t know all the words it doesn’t matter, just mumble gibberish to the beat of the song while inserting the words you do know in between your mumbling.

5. Thug Life. Remove your shirt, take a sharpie marker and write the words THUG LIFE across your stomach in big bold letters. Get dressed as you would normally, go to a party and after about 30 minutes or so remove your shirt and walk around with both of your middle fingers raised screaming “thug life, thug life til I die”.

(Notice the onlooking chode in spectator mode)

6. The Wheelchair Cart. Go to a major big box retailer, WalMart for example, and locate a wheelchair shopping cart (they all have them), and get in. Spend 30 minutes to an hour roaming the store filling your cart with goods, and approaching PYTs with the phrase “Help me”. It is HIGHLY unlikely that people will be anything less than kind to you. This one is ideal if you have a friend with you as I did, to push you around as eventually your arms will become fatigued of wheel spinning.

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Through this process of social experimentation I have learned 2 key things: 1) surprisingly, being immune to social pressure does not mean you don’t feel it, it’s just that you proceed ANYWAY, and 2) with time and repetition, what was once a hindering force instead becomes a motivational one.

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Conclusion

As you engage in social experimentation, your resistance will gradually dissipate, and in its place social freedom will surface. The ironic thing is, when you force yourself to do difficult things like this and disrupt your comfortable existence, your body rewards you with adrenaline and more positive emotions. And if you chose to continue down this path, social freedom will become more and more ingrained into your being. This phenomenon will also start to carry over to other aspects of your life. at which point an immensely important and fundamental paradigm shift occurs when you realize that women aren’t really so much the issue, and that THE GREATEST CHALLENGE is not being successful with women, but rather not stopping your self from doing so.

The Keen Approach
“Dating strategies for personal freedom, total choice, and sexual abundance.”
What is personal freedom?
Total choice?
Sexual abundance?

You decide.

OVERVIEW
-”as to methods there may be a million and then some but principles are few, the man who grasps principles can successfully select his own methods. The man who tries methods ignoring principles is sure to have trouble. ” Ralph waldo emerson

What is The Keen Approach
-Principle based philosophy. Essentially, a method-less method.

All attraction methods are governed by a small number of simple, concise, and powerful core principles. A principle based philosophy is one that simplifies the learning process by focusing on the underlying mechanism that make all methods work properly, or not.

Why?

1) more efficient (you don’t waste useful time learning how to be congruent with something that is not your own)
2) action oriented & less confusing (keeping it simple means you spend less time thinking and more time doing, which results in a shorter learning curve and faster progress)
3) sustainable & self-empowering. (will not make you dependant on some program that you will be lost and hopeless without, for example you forget what step or phase you are on).

I believe in this b/c it allows me to pay respect to your most valuable asset, your time, and to speak directly to your personal situation. Keep in mind that guys are at vastly different places in their dating skills, social skills, and life skills. A principle-based approach allows you to internalize only what you need and disregard what you don’t. You avoid filling your head up with unnecessary ideas that will will confuse you and overcomplicate your understanding of what is in essence very simple.

Scenario 1 – the typical approach
You read ebooks and articles, watch videos, get advice from other guys.
This results in your head being overloaded with conflicting information.
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Excessive information leads to confusion.
Confusion breeds inaction.
Inaction breeds more frustration.

The Keen approach:
Simplicity, understanding, action, repeated action, accomplishment, motivation, empowerment, personal well-being.