The Natural Chode

I sat down today and asked myself, “What are the 3 most important things that have increased my success with women, naturally?”

If you appreciate the article, please comment below and leave me your thoughts. And here they are, just for you…

1) Content is irrelevant.
I know this is going to sound off, but what you say is largely irrelevant. Yes, what you say will make a difference, but no, it doesn´t matter. What does? Your state. In other words, how you feel. And how you communicate it. This is what is important, and what you should be focusing on. Not what your saying, but rather how your saying it. Make sense?

2 of the most common mistakes with this are…

Looking to her for permission and trying to hide sexual interest. I know it feels like you need permission to talk to a woman you are interested in sexually, and you do — but not from her. You need it from yourself. So give it. It really is that simple. If you don´t, what you say will come across creepy, as if you are trying to do something wrong to her. Like the little boy getting caught with his hand in the cookie jar. And understandably, she will run.

Realize you don´t need to be fearful of expressing sexual interest. You must overtake this attraction killing impulse. Tell her why you are attracted to her, and make it unequivocally clear. This is how you can avoid her confusing your attention as just being friendly. I started small (¨you´re cute¨) and built up progressively, with more intensity and directness. It took some time, but eventually you get more and more comfortable with this until it becomes very normal. Yes, you have a dick, and yes, it’s a good thing.

2) Attitude is everything.
Your attitude is the source of your sub-communications (facial movements, gestures, eye contact, vocal tonality, rhythm, etc) and sub-communication is 90% of your message. Surpisingly, this is where virtually all of attraction ¨happens¨. Not from the actual words themselves. So you can see the importance.

With dating, people typically chose either a general attitude of pride or shame. Which are you? Clearly, its in your best interest to chose one that works. This is anattitude of self-value, or what the cool kids call swagga. (If you want to REALLY get this, start listening to Hip Hop). It’s an attitude of pride and deservingness. And it is so powerful that with it you can attract women naturally, with VERY minimal effort.

You see, secretly everybody wants to feel this for themselves, but very few actually do, especially women. So when you do, and you are around women, they will start to find you adictive, just by virtue of expressing yourself. This is at the core of how to be naturally attractive.

Being that most people chose shame, girls especially (due to “what is beautiful” social programming), by choosing a useful (positive) attitude, People like positive. Just make sure it is authentic. Meaning find real reasons to be positive.

3) State cannot be forced, only facilitated.
What is state? It’s known by many names: Wooo, Nimbus, Flow, The Zone, Being On. This “state” is a way of being in which you are fully immersed in what you are doing by a feeling of ENERGIZED focus, FULL involvement, and euphoria. It is not uncommon to reach a feeling of transcendental unity or knowledge of higher truth during these experiences. Everything you say creates enjoyment for you and for the girl, and all of your actions seem effortless.

Why does this matter? As mentioned above, your attitude is MAJOR for being successful with women, like 90% major, so by being in state you virtually guarantee yourself success. Which begs the question, how do you get into state? Now there have been many “Gurus” who have tried to get this one right, but nearly all of them have failed. If there is one thing to remember with this its that state CANNOT be forced, in fact the act of trying to force it will only result in the opposite, however, state CAN be facilitated, and there are 2 ways of doing this, physically and mentally. A physical approach meaning anything involving movement of your body (motion creates emotion), and a mental approach, meaning a re-frame or any idea that invokes a positive internal response.

I’ve worked on this for 3 years and can now get myself into state quickly and without a great deal of effort, at will. I did this by trying out different strategies of these two categories, noting the ones that were the most effective for me personally, and then doing them over and over again, purposely and actively. A few I use and like, the wooo clap (see Flawless Natural), facial fitness, jump for joy, this is my party, and patty cake (wingman required). This is the best part of the journey in becoming successful with women because its the one that effects literally EVERYBODY. The more you feel good, the more you will make the people around you feel good, and the more people will want to be around you, not just girls.

Niiice! Comments and questions welcomed and appreciated.
To Success,

-Keen